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From wounded boy to safe man.
I coach men through breakups, burnout and rock bottom. I have been through all three.
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Grow the roots first. Then the crown can grow tall and stable.
Is this you?
- You are in no contact, and it is killing you.
- From the outside you have it together. Inside you are at war.
- Your body has been in survival mode for so long that you forgot what calm feels like.
- You cannot remember the last time you said hello to a woman.
- You have read the books. You have done the courses. Nothing changed.
Not sure where to start?
Take the 1-minute quizWhat clients wrote to me
“a year ago i was a mess. relationship was hanging by a thread, i was 20 kilos heavier and i'd either shut down or explode whenever she tried to talk to me. i honestly thought thats just who i was. now we talk about the hard stuff without it turning into a fight. i can feel sad or scared and actually say it out loud instead of hiding it. thank you for pushing me when i wanted to quit. this is the life i didnt think was for guys like me”
“so i had 3 dates this week. me. the guy who thought he was done after the divorce. no tricks no lines, i just actually like who i am now and i guess it shows.”
Messages from clients, shared with their permission. Shortened, not rewritten.
I'm Mathias
You do not know me yet. But I think I know you.
You have promised yourself it would be different. Tomorrow. And tomorrow came, and you were the same man.
You have believed you were finally through it. Then a year went by, and you were back at the beginning.
Maybe you are building something big while something inside you is breaking. Maybe your body is begging you to stop, and you keep going. Maybe you lost someone, and you feel nothing at all.
I know, because I have been every one of those men.
I lost someone very close to me in my family and felt nothing. The grief came years later.
I hit rock bottom three times. Once in a single day, when I lost my company, my best friend and business partner, my relationship and my home. Once three years later, when a company and a relationship went within six months. And once when I lost the woman I thought would be my wife and the mother of my children. That last one hurt more than all the rest together.
Through every one of them I kept going. Four and a half years of stress and anxiety. A burnt-out nervous system. A time when stress took my sight. Operations. I took care of my family. I built two new businesses in the middle of a broken heart.
For years I tried to heal my inner child alone. I felt like I had no one in the whole world. I thought I had fixed myself, and three years later it all came down again. I walked around knowing everything and changing nothing.
This is what got me out.
I started working with my feelings. Not thinking about them. Feeling them.
I started keeping my own word.
I started working with coaches and mentors, instead of doing it all alone.
I started treating myself like my own best friend.
I cried out my grief and my shame.
I healed the boy, and I became a safe man.
Today I have made it. My life works. I wake up at peace.
So hear this from someone who has been there: you can take care of the people you love while you are burnt out. You can build while you are anxious. You can rebuild yourself after the breakup that broke you. It is possible. You just have to keep going long enough.
You do not have to do it alone. I did it alone for years, and I would not wish that on anyone.
Tell me where you are. I have been there, and I know the way out.
Why I do it
Because I know what it is like to look successful and be at war inside.
I know what happens when fear and shame start making your decisions for you. And I know how different life gets when you stop abandoning yourself.
Most men do not need someone telling them to work harder. They need to see what they are running from.
I want you to become a man you can trust when nobody is watching.
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Ask me a questionPrograms
01
Other themes →FROM WOUNDED BOY TO SAFE MAN
Stop letting the scared boy inside you run your anger, your fear and your relationships.
View program →02ROCK BOTTOM
When everything has fallen apart. We rebuild your direction, your habits and your life, one day at a time.
View program →03RELATIONSHIP AND BREAKUP (FOR MEN)
Get through the breakup and no contact without losing yourself.
View program →04DATING (FOR MEN)
For men who want real connection. No lines, no games, no performance.
View program →05STRESS AND ANXIETY
For when stress and anxiety have stopped being signals and started making the decisions.
View program →06OPEN 1:1
Not every real problem fits inside a program. Bring the actual issue.
View program →After working with me, a man
You stop being run by what you feel. You learn to notice stress before it takes over, to calm your own body, and to stay steady when life pushes you. I learned this through four and a half years of burnout. I can show you the way back.
No more drifting from week to week. We find out what you actually want, set clear goals and build a plan you can follow on the hard days too.
Small promises to yourself that you keep. Sleep, training, food, your mornings. That is how you start trusting yourself again.
You understand why your relationships went the way they did, and what you bring into them. You learn to date with calm instead of fear, and to choose the right partner.
You stop waiting for life to hand you something and start building it yourself.
- His business: work that pays and means something to you.
- His finances: control over your money instead of stress about it.
- His body: strength and energy you can feel every day.
- His mind: clear thinking, even under pressure.
- His spirituality: a connection to something bigger than yourself.
- His inner world: peace with who you are when nobody is watching.
How it works
- 01Free 30 minute intro call. We talk about what is actually going on, and whether working together makes sense.
- 02You choose a package: 1, 5, 10 or 18 sessions.
- 03We start. All sessions are online. 30 minutes each.
Programs and prices
Single session
30 min. Online.
$65
5 sessions
30 min. Online.
$290
$58 per session
10 sessions
30 min. Online.
$550
$55 per session
Best value
18 sessions
30 min. Online.
$780
$43 per session
Not sure which program fits? That is what the free intro call is for.
Not right for you after the first session? You get your money back for the rest.
What clients wrote to me
“divorce left me with 60k in debt and zero confidence. paid off the last of it this month and the business is finally in profit. didnt do it by grinding harder. did it by getting my head right first.”
“18 months ago i was broke and divorced sleeping on my brothers couch. everything changed when i stopped trying to prove something and started building from a calm place.”
“47 and in the best shape of my life. new business, new relationship, new friends who actually push me. everyone talks about a midlife crisis. this feels more like a midlife awakening lol.”
Messages from clients, shared with their permission. Shortened, not rewritten.
This is not for you if
- You want someone to save you. Nobody is coming to save you. I help you do it yourself.
- You want to talk about change, not make it.
Right now I work with men aged 18 to 60.
Questions
- What if it is not right for me?
- Then you get your money back for the sessions you have not had. Tell me after the first session.
- What is the free intro call, and how do I know if it is the right fit?
- It is a short, focused 30 minute conversation about where you are right now, what you want, and whether working with me is the right fit. It is not a sales call, and it is not a free coaching session. It is an alignment check, for both of us. If working together makes sense, I show you the right option. If not, you still leave with clarity on your next step. You do not need to know which program fits.
- How does it work?
- All sessions are online. 30 minutes each.
- Can I write to you between sessions?
- Yes. On WhatsApp.
- Do you run ayahuasca ceremonies?
- No. I do not provide substances or ceremonies. I work with people after the experience. The experience is not the change.
Start here
Book a free 30 min intro call
You do not need to know which program fits. Bring what is actually going on.
Grow tall without roots, and your fall will echo through the forest. The tree that first goes deep into the earth earns the strength to carry a great crown.